Armed forces have a duty to serve their country and they are prepared to deploy at a moment’s notice. This can be difficult when you’re in a relationship with someone in the military. These months away from one another will test the strength of your relationship. It definitely won’t be easy, but there are a variety of ways you can manage. Prepare ahead of time for deployment, carving out expectations. Communicate with your partner as much as you can while he or she is away. Try to keep busy on your end, and look into ways to manage emotionally in your partner’s absence.
Start to talk about your plan for deployment. Before the deployment starts, you and your partner need to sit down and develop a plan. You’ll need to talk about how the two of you will manage your time, seek support, and cope during deployment.
- The two of you need to help one another plan on how to manage. For the person being deployed, this means focusing on the mission, seeking support from other soldiers or military officials, and managing stress overseas. For the person staying home, this means fostering support at home, staying busy, and managing feelings of stress or anxiety when communication is limited.
- Try to have as honest and open a conversation as possible. Both of you should feel free to express your feelings, good or bad, about the impending separation. Feelings of jealousy and insecurity are normal when faced with a long separation.
- Make time to spend alone and talk. Spend some one-on-one time at home together communicating. If you have children, hire a sitter for the night so you and your partner can talk.
Figure out a plan for emergencies. In the event of an emergency, you need to have an action plan. How will you contact one another? Who at home should be on call to help handle emergencies? These are questions you should answer before deployment.
- If you’re staying at home, know the quickest way to get ahold of your partner. You should also have someone on call, like a friend or family member, that can help you through emergencies while your partner is away.
- If you’re leaving, know how your partner will be contacted in the event something happens to you. Talk to your partner about how you’ll provide support from a distance in the event there’s an emergency at home.